Last night I went to see the new movie, Kick-blank, blank, blank. (A little self censoring is in order today. This is a family site and I have to protect the kiddies!) Turns out that this controversial movie has earned its controversy. But it's not the merits of the film that I want to discuss here. Rather, I want to consider a scene in the film that just set me off. There is a moment with the main character and his girlfriend where they struggle to communicate their feelings with each other. Very tentatively, yet sweetly, they settle on "I like you...a lot." Most people probably went through that scene without blinking an eye. I on the other hand, was apoplectic! In a movie where a eight year old girl drops f-bombs like crazy, where we have already seen our superhero wannabe and his leading lady get it on like Donkey Kong, and where the conversation is prompted by our main man heading into a peril, the script writers balked on saying that most filthy word...love!
I suppose I wouldn't have been so shocked if I wasn't already a bit sensitive to the subject. One of my favorite shows on TV, The Big Bang Theory, recently aired an episode the centered around the main characters struggling with the L-word. One is willing to express it while the other finds they cannot. This is after an entire season where they have shown them in bed together every episode! Oh, it's ok to go at it like its their sole responsibility to continue the human race, but don't dare utter that word!
Now it may seem like I am a little naive here. I recognize that sexual interaction in our culture has changed dramatically over the last few decades and that often emotional commitment like love plays zero part in who you go to bed with. I recognize it...I just think its FREAKIN' CRAZY!!! If you're all in with your body, you should be all in with your emotions. And I hate how cultural media suggests that this is not only reality, but it should be acceptable. Look-it, no one want to be an outlet for someone else's hormones. (Our your own for that matter!) We want to be loved. And its ok to say it!
Now hear me out...I'm not advocating dropping the L-word to every hottie that you fancy. The Song of Solomon advises us to not arouse or awaken love until IT desires. Simply put, don't say it unless its true and there has been adequate time to recognize that. What I am saying is that I hate seeing love downgraded to something that is completely unnecessary in a physical relationship. Love is not a dirty word, people. It should be the goal of our romantic relationships and can be the greatest experience and expression that two people can have. If we could learn that and stop cheapening our love-making (yeah, its got that word right in the description!) maybe our relationships would go a whole lot better. Something to think about.
Dude, I had to look up "apoplectic".
Posted by: Kimmer | April 20, 2010 at 11:33 AM
I love you, Aaron.
Posted by: bryan | April 20, 2010 at 12:33 PM